Every Italian has exactly one friend named Angelo.
I met Angelo DeCesare in 1960, in Mrs. Brilli’s kindergarten class at Our Lady of Grace School in the Bronx. If you look at the photo below, Angelo is in the back row, second from the left — the one who’s thinking, “Someday I’m going to enjoy a successful career as a writer and cartoonist, appear in a YouTube video, and be the subject of an online blog!” I’m seated in the front row, third from the right — the one who’s thinking, “Are we having our picture taken today?”
Angelo and I were part of a small group of friends who played stickball in the street, traded baseball cards in the schoolyard, and talked about comic books the way nineteenth-century scholars discussed works of literature, except with a lot more yelling and punching. He and I shared a love for building plastic models. Our favorites were the monsters: Dracula, Wolfman, the Mummy, and the Creature from the Black Lagoon. (There were really just three steps involved in putting the models together: painting the individual pieces, waiting twenty-four hours for them to dry completely, and then gluing them together. I don’t know if Angelo had the same weakness, but I could never wait out the required drying time, and my models always ended up all blotchy and sticky and covered with fingerprints. Wolfman looked as though he’d been left in a hot car for a week.)
The class pretty much stayed together from grade to grade, adding and losing a few kids each year. Angelo was the smartest, funniest, and most well-liked. (He promised to give me his 1962 Mickey Mantle card if I said that. Not a big deal for either one of us: he has doubles on the card, and nobody believes anything I say anyway.) That fateful day before Christmas break in the fourth grade, when I almost choked to death on a piece of hard candy, Angelo was somewhere in the classroom. He had no idea at the time, but he’d missed his chance to invent what would years later become the Heimlich. In retrospect, it’s just as well. Having to ask, “Does anyone here know how to do the Angelo DeCesare Maneuver?” would have probably caused the loss of countless lives.
I don’t remember when it started, maybe second or third grade, but at an early age Angelo would hold small, informal art workshops in the classroom. On rainy days or right after lunch, a bunch of us would circle our desks around his and he’d teach us to draw a pirate or an astronaut or The Phantom of the Opera. He’d draw a line, then wait as we all drew the same line. Then he’d make an oval for a face, and we’d do the same. And he would continue, patiently taking us one tiny step at a time through this picture he could have drawn by himself in a minute and a half. By the end of the lesson, Angelo would be holding an incredible illustration, something suitable for framing or entering in an art contest. The rest of us would be looking at each other’s pictures, trying to determine if anyone’s even remotely resembled the one Angelo had just done. Mine usually looked as though I’d drawn it blindfolded, and underwater.
But here’s what’s amazing about those art lessons he gave so many years ago. Angelo is still doing pretty much the same thing. He goes into schools all over the New York City area (including our old OLG in the Bronx), and teaches kids how to draw, and helps them to see how much fun writing can be. His book, Flip’s Fantastic Journal, is just one of a series of books and programs that Angelo has created to help students feel more comfortable with writing, reading, art, and math — and to practice social, teamwork, and conflict resolution skills. The remarkable part isn’t that he can pull that off, but that while he’s doing it, the students are having fun.
If you visit Angelo’s website, you’ll see that he’s written and created storyboards for hundreds of Marvel, Harvey, and Archie Comics. In 1997, his book Anthony the Perfect Monster was a winner of the Children’s Choices award. But it’s the encouragement and inspiration he instills into thousands of children that I believe is his greatest accomplishment. He’s one of those exceptional individuals who knew at a stunningly early age what he enjoyed, and what he was supposed to be when he grew up. Not only that, but decades later, he still loves what he does.
When I asked Angelo what he’d like me to include in this post, he replied with the usual nonsense:
“You should mention my early career as a Mae West impersonator, my battle with the Loch Ness Monster, and the time I fell out of the Space Shuttle.”
Which proves that while Angelo is a gifted artist and teacher, he’s also a big fat liar. I know for a fact that his space shuttle mission was canceled after NASA found out about the Mae West thing. I doubt I’ll ever get the baseball card he promised. And I seem to recall that his monster models always looked even better than the pictures on the boxes. Other than that, I’d have to say I lucked out. I’m allowed to have only one friend named Angelo.
And this is the one I got:
To learn more about Angelo’s books and programs, visit:
http://www.puppetryinpractice.com/neighborhood/
http://www.amazon.com/Anthony-Perfect-Monster-Angelo-Decesare/dp/0679868453
Or email him: flipandmuzz@rcn.com
heidit
January 12, 2011
What a beautiful post. I’m intrigued by your friends’ books. I think I’ll have to look into them, as I know quite a few teachers who have trouble getting their students to journal.
I wonder why NASA wouldn’t want to have an astronaut who battled the Loch Ness Monster? I think that shows small-mindedness on their part. Surely he’d be fantastic in a battle with aliens.
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bronxboy55
January 12, 2011
Flip’s Fantastic Journal is great. I just emailed Angelo to ask how people could get copies, because Amazon has them at that ridiculous price that seems to happen when books go out of print. I’ll let you know.
And it was our first-grade nun who battled the Loch Ness Monster. Angelo was there just to lure Nessie out by waving around his perfect little Godzilla model.
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Val Erde
January 12, 2011
A lovely story, Charles. So nice to read of childhood friends who have ‘made good’.
🙂
His style is remiscent of the late Andrew Loomis without whose books I wouldn’t have passed my ‘O’ level art exam! Very simple ‘formula’ drawing that can lead onto all sorts of other things.
One criticism though – not of your post but of his website – for an artist, where is the art? Apart from the home page, there is so much text there, it mostly lost me. Even if it’s only designed for teachers, even teachers surely would like some more imagery. Maybe you could mention that to him from one artist to another!
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bronxboy55
January 12, 2011
I’ll mention that to him, Val. He doesn’t maintain the site himself, but I just looked again, and you’re right — it could use more visuals. I’ve seen so many of his drawings, and they’re all extremely colorful and full of life. I’m sure he’ll appreciate the suggestion as much as I appreciate the comment.
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Amiable Amiable
January 12, 2011
Your childhood is idyllic, BB55. Stickball, trading baseball cards, plastic models, comic books. So great that you had and have a friend like Angelo, a kind and generous person, willing to share his talents and inspire children then and now. I enjoyed his instructional video and can see how he makes drawing so easy, not intimidating, for children. His various programs listed on his website inspire creativity and self-expression. You know I’m all about that!
I loved Archie Comics. And your post took me back to a few others, Richie Rich and Little Dot. Your class photo is priceless. Wonderful post, as always!
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bronxboy55
January 12, 2011
Looking back, it does seem idyllic. There was a lot to do and it was safe. Bronx people, especially those who were kids in the ’50s and ’60s, are scattered all over the US, but a lot of them remain nostalgic for their old neighborhoods. Unfortunately, it’s impossible to even revisit those places because that was another time; everything is different now. I guess that’s what memories are for.
Angelo has a daughter in college — not terribly far away, but not close enough, either. You might want to commiserate with him sometime.
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Allan Douglas
January 12, 2011
What a great story, and about a great fellow. I love that he’s still teaching kids to draw.
It makes me wish I’d had friends as a kid.
OK, I had one… but he wasn’t an Angelo, but that’s probably because I’m Irish not Italian 🙂
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bronxboy55
January 12, 2011
The thing is, Allan, he didn’t allow himself to get blown off course by a changing world, financial obligations, or disillusionment. He just kept following his heart, and he’s still basically the same person you see in that class picture. Only taller. And with less hair.
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dearrosie
January 13, 2011
hah you’re right BB, I only have one friend called Angelo. Our Angelo is from Sicily, we met him when we all had small kids, and while the kids ran in and out and underfoot he taught us how to eat fresh, local food and homemade wine
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bronxboy55
January 13, 2011
I wonder where in Sicily your friend Angelo is from. My grandparents were all from Sicily, and we’ve visited three times. It’s a beautiful place. And going to the market for fresh food every day is one of the joys of life there.
Thanks for the comment, Rose.
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dearrosie
January 15, 2011
I don’t know where in Sicily – sorry. You’re lucky to have gone there three times! It sounds wonderful.
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souldipper
January 13, 2011
What a gift to have soldered a friendship so securely with all those early experiences. Long term friends are even more precious as we age and wrinkle together. It’s so much easier to see the humour in the process.
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bronxboy55
January 13, 2011
Very true, Amy. When you have friends who were there at your very goofiest, it makes it that much easier to be yourself with them now.
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Jessica Sieghart
January 13, 2011
I don’t have a friend named Angelo (it’s more of a Danny thing here), but if I did, I’d want it to be him, too. What great memories you have! I read Angelo’s bio over at his site and I can truly relate to the loss of a parent and using art or music as a soother. I did a similar thing with singing, although I’ve always been envious of those who can draw or paint. (Sibling rivalry. My sister gets green-eyed over singers. Go figure.) You can tell by this one video what a great teacher and artist he is. People with my drawing skills draw circles and lines and people with his talent may draw the same circles and lines, but because of their placement, bring something to life and full of expression. I saw it right away with the eyebrows. The whole character came to life. I’m tempted to draw Flip now. If I can follow him and it’s good, I’ll send you a copy. If Flip “flops”, you won’t hear from me!
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bronxboy55
January 13, 2011
You’re right. He’s always had this ability to put together simple lines and somehow produce something very complex. I could never figure out why my drawings looked flat and distorted, when I was following Angelo’s every step. Interesting that his favorite cartoonist is Charles Schulz, who also did a lot with a few lines and circles. Angelo was also the first person I ever knew who’d lost a parent (we were in kindergarten); it didn’t seem possible. That experience has helped him relate to a lot of kids who are trying to cope with things they’re not ready for.
Good luck with the drawing, Jessica, and thanks for the nice comment.
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Snoring Dog Studio
January 13, 2011
Again, a marvelous post! You are blessed to have a friend like Angelo. His website is wonderful, too. I need to buy “Flip’s Math Party Journal.”
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bronxboy55
January 13, 2011
Thanks, SDS. I added his email address to the end of the post, in case anyone wants to contact him directly.
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Angelo DeCesare
January 13, 2011
Charlie, thanks again for the blog. You’re a truly gifted writer (and invaluable pal) who deserves a wider audience. And thanks to everyone for your kind words and insightful comments. I hope my responses are adequate.
“Flip’s Fantastic Journal” has been out of print for about 4 years now after having been in print for about 8. My publisher wasn’t interested in the other Flip Journals, saying they were “too institutional”, meaning too educational. We all know how bad that is for kids!
The other Flip Journals are available from Puppetry In Practice, my employer, through me. If you’d like any, just send me an email. They sell for six dollars and I’ll be happy to do an elaborate inscription in each book.
Val, you’re right about my site. It’s a bit boring. Originally, its sole purpose was to have my contact information available. But it’s long overdue for an upgrade, which I’m working on.
Since children can’t possibly reproduce the art work in most children’s books, I wanted to design characters that kids could not just copy, but also interpret in their own way. I’ve also learned from experience that a reluctant writer will sometimes be coaxed into writing if he or she can draw first.
I’d be honored if each of you considered me your Angelo friend. Charlie was an amazing kid to grow up with: smart, funny, resourceful, a good athlete, and a good kid without a malicious bone in his body.
I’ve almost forgiven him for moving away.
Please feel free to contact me at flipandmuzz@rcn.com
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mirroredImages
January 13, 2011
Charles: love your self-deprecating humor (and you were a cute little boy, even if you didn’t know back then you’d be a successful blogger, writer, expatriate, and failed violinist). Several moments here made me smile: drawing Phantom of the Opera, the grubby fingerprints on your Wolfman, the idea of scholars beating on each other as they discuss comics. Funny.
FYI, there’s a cartoon research library at Ohio State that takes itself very seriously. VERY seriously. I don’t know that the curators would beat each other, but they certainly cast acidic glances and hold their heads at the precise angle of intellectually superior loathing.
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bronxboy55
January 14, 2011
Thanks, Julia. I can still see those pictures we drew in the third grade. And actually, I did know I would be a failed violinist; that was one of my life goals, and I succeeded beautifully.
Didn’t you write a newspaper article about the cartoon library? I’d love to visit there someday (as long as I wouldn’t have to talk to the curators).
By the way, I think your most recent blog post is one of your best ever.
http://plettahar.wordpress.com/2011/01/13/whats-afoot/
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mirroredImages
January 14, 2011
thanks for editing me. ex-tremely grateful. 🙂
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Betty Londergan
January 14, 2011
What a GREAT story! I love this guy — and his video was mesmerizing (even though I’m pretty sure I couldn’t draw Flip if I tried) …..but I’m also willing to bet he’s WAY impressed with you and your wonderful writing. Our Lady of Grace was obviously PACKED with talent!!! (Love the school picture – but can it possibly be you had 47 kids with one teacher?? whoa! How did those Catholic schools manage to teach so many kids in one classroom??)
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bronxboy55
January 14, 2011
You’re right, Betty: the school was packed with talent. Picasso and Einstein were in our class and they both got kicked out for being slackers (and they couldn’t play kickball to save their lives).
The kindergarten picture shows the morning and afternoon classes combined, so no, that teacher wouldn’t have been dealing with all of us at the same time. However, on my Facebook page is our fifth-grade class photo, and it shows 50 students. That was one class, and I’d imagine there were a few more who were absent when the picture was taken. Maintaining control was never really an issue, though. If you look closely at the nun, you might be able to see that she was holding a small machine gun under her habit.
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cooperstownersincanada
January 14, 2011
An excellent tribute to a great friend. Thanks for sharing. And I hope you get that ’62 Mantle soon.
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bronxboy55
January 14, 2011
Thanks, Kevin. I have to confess: Angelo didn’t really promise me a ’62 Mickey Mantle. But he did send me a complete set of monster trading cards a couple of years ago. Really. (Leech Woman and the Invisible Man are my favorites.)
And if you happen to spot Archie & Friends, “Twilite, Parts 1 & 2” in a store somewhere, Angelo wrote the stories for both.
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Allison
January 14, 2011
For a new teacher searching for ways to help students become successful readers and writers, Angelo’s books are an incredible resource. “Flip’s Fantastic Journal” is a wonderful book for showing young children how fun writing can be. My father introduced me to the book while I was doing my student teaching in a grade three classroom. As I read it, I knew immediately that it was something I had to share with my students. There is nothing better than finding books you know your students are going to enjoy AND learn from. Angelo’s books do just that.
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bronxboy55
January 14, 2011
Thanks, Al. I couldn’t agree more. Flip needs to be back in print.
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shoreacres
January 14, 2011
It’s an amazement and a mystery to bump into someone whose sense of self and sense of direction was so clear at such an early age. I know people in their sixties who still are looking at one another and asking, “Whadda ya wanna be when you grow up?”
I recently read a blog entry written by a musician who was “playing piano” on the handle of the grocery cart when she still was small enough to be tucked into the upper basket. Eventually, her parents were smart enough to stick a keyboard under those fingers, and off she went.
I think more and more often of my desire to be an English major in college – my love of reading and writing. I was talked out of it after only a semester by the practical people who surrounded me. How could I earn a living? Wouldn’t it be better to teach grade school? or be a nurse? There always was a market for those sorts…
Well, this senior class poet and essay contest winner gave it all up. In a sense, it’s worked out fine – I certainly have a variety of experiences behind me now to write about. But I’m glad Angelo’s out there for another generation of kids. I hope there are many, many more – all of them telling those awkward bits of humanity they have a right to follow their dreams.
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bronxboy55
January 14, 2011
What a loss it would have been if you hadn’t gone back to writing. Yours is one of the most perfectly-crafted blogs I’ve seen. With the help of people like Angelo, there will be more such masterpieces appearing in the future.
Thank you, Linda.
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Marie M
January 14, 2011
I loved this post, I love your friendship, I love that you can write a wonderful post , about your friendship–and I love Angelo’s Bronx accent. Also, I accept his kind offer to be my Angelo friend.
Can’t you two come up with a plan to market your books to homeschoolers?
And who are the elite group of kids in the photo who have blue circles drawn around their heads?
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bronxboy55
January 14, 2011
Angelo and I have tried putting our heads together on a marketing plan, but between the two of us, we have about eleven business-related brain cells. (I hate to brag, but I have six of them myself.)
You’ll have to ask him about the circled heads. When I went to scan my picture I couldn’t find it, so Angelo sent me his. I’m just glad I wasn’t circled.
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notesfromrumbleycottage
January 14, 2011
Great story, glad I found you.
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bronxboy55
January 14, 2011
Thank you. I just visited your blog and really enjoyed what I read. I’ll definitely be back to read more.
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arborfamiliae
January 14, 2011
It’s great that you have such a friend, that you still know him and that “decades later, he still loves what he does.” I don’t know a whole lot of people who can say they love what they do, let alone friends. I did know a guy named Angelo once, though. I didn’t know him well, but he seemed like a really great guy, who was satisfied with life and enjoyed every day. It’s funny how sometimes people with the same name have similar characteristics.
I notice in the picture that (if I read it correctly) you are the only one showing some leg. I’m not sure what the significance of this is, but I’m sure it has some vast metaphysical importance.
Great post!
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bronxboy55
January 15, 2011
I don’t know too many people who love what they do either, and I doubt I know anyone else who found his or her path so early in life.
It may appear that I’m the only one flashing some leg, but actually the boys in the back row all showed up for school that day wearing shorts. You can see that our teacher was pretty annoyed about it, and some of the girls in the class were downright stunned.
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Angelo DeCesare
January 15, 2011
Charlie, I hate to correct you, especially after the great blog but you’re mistaken about the size of our kindergarten class. The class in that photo is the afternoon class. There was also a morning class with the same number of students. If they had combined both classes, there would have been over 100 kids in that photo. Even Sister Attila Frankenstina couldn’t have handled that many kids.
Marie, I circled the heads of the kids who left our class. I guess I had abandonment issues. How are things in Canada, Charlie?
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bronxboy55
January 15, 2011
Ang, I was unsure when I explained it to Betty, because it says “KNG-2” at the bottom of the picture. I was also wondering how half of that kindergarten class could have turned into fifty 5th-graders. Young children don’t normally multiply that quickly. Thanks for the clarification, and I stand corrected. Or in this case, I sit corrected. Sometimes I get confused.
Canada? I thought this was Finland.
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Marie M
January 15, 2011
Thanks for the explanation of the circled heads, Angelo–I guess those kids were prescient enough to know that they too could someday become the subject of this blog. They got out while the getting out was good! You, I assume, figured the risk was worth staying for, right? And look what happened: Charlie has helped extend your fame even further, and entertained us all as a side benefit. Way to go, bronxboy!
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bronxboy55
January 16, 2011
As payback, I expect to be introduced as a minor character in a future issue of Archie. Maybe as Jughead’s weird vegetarian cousin.
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Angelo DeCesare
January 15, 2011
Here’s how to tell the difference:
Finland-Statues of Jean Sibelius
Canada-Statues of Celine Dion
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bronxboy55
January 15, 2011
All of the Celine Dion statues have been torn down and replaced by Justin Bieber statues. Either way, I’m sure Sibelius is spinning in his grave right now. Because really, what else is there to do?
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Mitchell Allen
January 16, 2011
Angelo is pretty cool. It’s wonderful that you have such an inspiring story to share. There is just something special about “not being blown off course” of our dreams.
Thanks for sharing this.
Cheers,
Mitch
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bronxboy55
January 16, 2011
I agree, Mitch. There are always compelling arguments for abandoning dreams, especially those formed at a young age. It’s inspiring when the dream outlasts the arguments.
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Priya
January 18, 2011
Not only did I enjoy this post, its sensibility and the obvious tenderness you feel for Angelo, I enjoyed the comments section to the brim as well. Your camaraderie with Angelo is apparent here, too. And Angelo’s comments quite corroborate the image we get from your words. Brilliant is the word, Charles. For your feelings and their expression, and for Angelo’s work. (Though I must say I agree with Val about a little more colour in the website, I must confess that Flip’s image on each page catches my attention without fail, so the words don’t overwhelm much.)
All the very best to you, Angelo! And to you, Charles.
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bronxboy55
January 18, 2011
Thank you, Priya. I’m sure Angelo will appreciate your kind words, as I do.
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arleneyolles
September 17, 2012
Once again, you nailed it. I hope you’re making lots of money as a writer; you certainly should be. My best friend in the Bronx, growing up, was Diane Horowitz. Where she is today one can only surmise, but my memories of her were jolted by your reminiscences of Angelo. Thanks.
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bronxboy55
September 18, 2012
What? Are you saying you grew up in the Bronx, too?
Have you ever tried to find Diane?
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