Just yesterday, I learned about a couple named Sherry and Craig. I have no idea where they live, although I imagine it’s somewhere in the United States. I’ve never met or even spoken to them, and likely never will. My link to Sherry and Craig is a tenuous one, provided by Sandra, the author of a blog called Nailing Jello To A Tree. In truth, I don’t really know Sandra, either. But through the special weirdness of blogging, you and I now have the improbable opportunity to help Sandra as she tries to help her friends.
Improbable — but very possible — because it would take so little.
Sherry and Craig want to adopt a child. There’s nothing especially startling about that. Millions of people are trying to do the same thing, or have done it. Further, the child lives in Uganda, a landlocked nation in Africa where the population is exploding. The number of Ugandan children who are orphaned, homeless, or infected with HIV grows by the minute.
And yet, as so many hopeful parents know, the adoption process involves a long wait, and a lot of expense. That the desire to make a difference turns into such a challenging, costly, and frustrating effort may be the topic of another post. For now, I just want to introduce you to one couple, and the little boy they’d like to welcome into their family.
Sherry and Craig are trying to change the future, not in some earth-shaking manner, but for a single child out of millions. That child could stay right where he is. Or he could start a new life in a place where he has a better chance to be healthy and safe, and to live beyond the average fifty-four-year lifespan of Ugandan citizens. In the grand scheme of things, the world won’t care either way. There’s so much pain and heartache. Really, what difference will this adoption make?
We don’t know, but we can find out. Sherry and Craig need to raise a lot of money in a short amount of time. One way they’re doing that is by raffling off a basket filled with hundreds of dollars’ worth of gift cards and other items. Every five-dollar donation you make toward their adoption effort will get you an additional entry in the gift basket drawing. And, as the funds raised reach certain levels, Sandra has offered to add still more gift cards to the prize. She’s doing that in order to help her friends, but it also reflects the kind of people – and the kind of power – blogging provides.
As I said, I don’t know Sherry and Craig. Their Christian faith is strong and fills their lives. I don’t share that faith, and were I to spend a lot of time with them, that enthusiasm would probably drive me crazy. But when I filter out the talk of God and Jesus, what’s left is a message that seems irrefutable: If we want to think of ourselves as moral people, we are obligated to be aware of the suffering of others, and to do what we can to ease that suffering.
Sherry and Craig’s desire to help another human being should be universal. Easy to say, I guess, and we’d all like to think we’d do something if we could. Here’s a chance to prove it.
Please click here to learn more about this special family, the plight of children in Uganda, and how you can help – and possibly win a basket full of gifts at the same time.
Feel free to reblog my post, theirs, or Sandra’s. If you can put a link on your Facebook page, or do anything else to get the word out to your friends and colleagues, that would be equally helpful.
And if you’re celebrating Thanksgiving this week, please be safe and have a wonderful day.
nailingjellotoatree
November 20, 2012
THANK YOU! I wish I could spend days describing the conditions these poor children live in! We can’t change the life of all of them at once, but we can have Hope for One. One life at a time, we can eliminate the number 147 million! That’s the number of orphans in the world today!
Thank you my blogging friend for reaching out to help this need!!
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bronxboy55
November 21, 2012
It’s amazing how easy it is to take such an enormous problem and set it aside in our minds. Maybe it’s that the numbers are overwhelming. But as soon as we personalize it and take it down to the level of one child and one family, it becomes more compelling, somehow. Your friends are the ones who are putting their words into action. I hope you’ll let us know how the story progresses.
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TAE
November 20, 2012
While I commend the effort, I’m always weary of ‘religiously enthusiastic’ people trying to adopt children, it makes me think of a certain Congresswoman…but I don’t want to be unfair. I do wonder though why they are not trying to adopt a child within the US. There are thousands, especially non-white children looking for a future and a home.
I don’t want to rain on anybody’s parade, though.
http://www.adoptuskids.org/ (as an example)
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bronxboy55
November 21, 2012
It’s hard to say what motivates people to move in one direction or another. There are a lot of children, everywhere, who are alone and fending for themselves. Caring for those children seems to be one area in which people manage to ignore superficial distinctions such as political boundaries and skin color. I also think about the consequences of raising any child in a dogmatic religious environment. But basic needs have to be the top priority, and if this boy is brought into a safe home where he’s given nutritious food, clean water, and good medical care, that’s always going to be preferable to whatever the alternative is. Yes, there are plenty of kids in the US who need a home, and I’m glad you provided that link. The real problem, I think, is the number of obstacles standing between those kids and caring families — cost, time, and maddening bureaucracies no doubt dissuade countless adoptive parents from reaching their goal. And that seems to be true all over the world.
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TAE
November 21, 2012
Yeah, that is definitely true. And we’re told so many horror stories that we have a hard time trusting anybody. It all comes down to a liability issue in the end, I guess.
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kleggott
November 20, 2012
Great post! Thanks for passing this along — hopefully, through the power of blogging and others sharing this info, this couple can reach their goal and bring this child home.
Re TAE’s comments, I guess I don’t see why it matters whether they’re religious or not — the goal is to get these kids into homes where they’re wanted, and the whys really shouldn’t matter. As to adopting here or abroad, there are thousands of adoptive parents looking for kids in the US — the need just isn’t as severe for parents for American kids. And, the conditions in which children in overseas orphanages live are truly appalling. Anything that can be done to help such children should be done.
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bronxboy55
November 21, 2012
As I said to TAE, there are children all over the world — including in the US and Canada — who are waiting to be adopted. People who are looking to adopt have all kinds of reasons for approaching it the way they do. In the end, no kid is any more or less important than any other, so where it happens isn’t really an issue.
Thanks for the comment. I join you in wishing Sherry and Craig a smoother path to their goal.
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rangewriter
November 20, 2012
I believe that the only viable way we, as individuals, have of effecting positive change in the world is to do it one action, one person, one gift at a time. What Sherry & Craig are trying to do IS earth-shaking. It is a model of the types of things we can all do.
Thanks for doing your part, Charles.
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bronxboy55
November 21, 2012
I haven’t really done anything, Linda, and they still have a long way to go. But I agree with you: the collective effort can add up to a lot in any situation.
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amelie
November 20, 2012
I don’t share their faith either but I’ve been neighbors and worked with many Christian couples who make superb parents. Many of them do have that community spirit that, I’m sorry, my more “liberal” area does not. Even better that they’ve chosen to adopt. My thoughts are with them to succeed.
An Oprah show featured a 16 year old girl in some part of Africa, living in a shack with a leaking roof; both her parents had died. A nonprofit brought her some clothing. She held up some jeans that she liked and said, “I’m so lucky”. Reminds me to be very grateful for what I have.
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bronxboy55
November 21, 2012
Amelie, when you have some time, visit Betty’s blog at http://heifer12x12.com. You’ll find dozens of examples of what you described in that second paragraph.
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Sarah
November 20, 2012
Like many others, I’m truly struggling financially, so as I read your post I was thinking, “I wish I could help.” Then I read the comments and found, to my dismay, that TAE felt the need to take a request that appeals to our common humanity and turn it into something political, with a dash of bigotry thrown in. As a result, I’ll be happy to help Sherry & Craig, and will request that I not be entered into the gift basket drawing. For me, there would no prize better than to help a decent couple become adoptive parents.
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bronxboy55
November 21, 2012
I was the one who injected the religious aspect into the discussion, and maybe that was unnecessary — a good act is a good act. I think TAE was trying to remind people that the need is everywhere. But if she irritated you into making a donation, then her comment served an additional purpose.
Thank you, Sarah. Happy Thanksgiving.
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Jac
November 20, 2012
Donated and re-posted on my Facebook page. Very cool of you to do this for them!
Pay it forward 🙂
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bronxboy55
November 21, 2012
Thanks, Jac. I had a feeling you would do what you did.
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writingfeemail
November 20, 2012
You’ve given us such a hearwarming story. I am thankful that there are people willing to open their hearts and their homes for those less fortunate, wherever in the world they are. Thanks Charles.
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bronxboy55
November 22, 2012
Thank you for the kind words, Renee. I’m sure Sherry and Craig will appreciate what you’ve said.
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Judy Berman
November 21, 2012
Charles, I wish Sherry and Craig the best in trying to change one life in a positive way. There are many children who need a loving home – here, in foster care, and abroad. I wish they all could have the security and comfort that many of us take for granted.
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bronxboy55
November 22, 2012
Judy, I don’t know this for sure, but I suspect the number of children who need a home is growing faster than the number of people willing or able to provide it. Even in the United States and Canada, there are more homeless and hungry children than I would have ever thought possible. And instead of becoming part of a family, it’s very likely that many of them will end up in prison.
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zoetic * epics
November 21, 2012
What a beautiful message and story, Charles! So thoughtful and generous of you to help others, especially those you do not know at all! Truly touching topic and I wish them the best in fulfilling this dream! There are so many problems and people who need help out there, but you are right, if you can help one person, you are moving the world one step closer to making the it a better place!
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bronxboy55
November 22, 2012
You know, it’s amazing enough when people can sacrifice so much for their own biological children. But when they do it for a child born to other parents, that requires some extra-special qualities. It’s what makes it hard to understand why these people are forced to jump through so many hoops, even before they’re officially in the parenting role.
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Stacie Chadwick
November 21, 2012
One of my best friends from college and her husband recently adopted a son from Ethiopia. It was a painfully long and expensive process, but worth every stressful moment. Thanks for writing this post. I hope Sherry and Craig are able to successfully bring home a child.
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bronxboy55
November 22, 2012
Thank you, Stacie. Your comment has me wondering if there’s some kind of support system in place that enables people in the middle of the process to connect with those who have successfully made it through. I’d imagine it would be helpful for someone to hear a story like the one about your friends. I’m glad it worked out for them.
Happy Thanksgiving.
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Amiable Amiable
November 21, 2012
Thank you for sharing this story, Charles. It’s heartwarming and, whether people are religious or not, it’s just the kind of hope I feel we need to read about to keep our lives and blessings in perspective – particularly during the holiday season. I wish Sherry and Craig a successful fundraiser and that they can soon welcome an orphan into their life. The child will have such a loving home.
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bronxboy55
November 22, 2012
We often talk about changing the world by changing the life of one other person, but is it possible to change just a single life? There has to be a ripple effect. As soon as you help alter one person’s course, it’s impossible to measure the number of people whose lives will be affected in some way in the future. So it may be easier than we think to change the world.
Happy Thanksgiving to you, AA Hubby, and the boys.
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dearrosie
November 25, 2012
I don’t think people are aware that AIDS is still wiping out communities in southern Africa so I also thank you for sharing the story Charles. So good to hear that people like Sherry and Craig are trying to help one of those orphans in Uganda. One orphan at a time…
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bronxboy55
November 29, 2012
The statistics are incredible, Rosie. It’s impossible for many of us to imagine the level of deprivation and suffering that exists in so much of the world.
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Priya Dubey Sah
November 28, 2012
There is an organization in India called Child Relief and You (CRY). Many people I know sponsor a girl child through it (girl child because they are the ones abandoned the most). Just a few hundred rupees a year, that is it. And yet, for years, I have only been thinking of doing so. I do not know whether I make any difference in the lives of deprived people around me, but I do try. Do I try enough? No. Which is why, people like Sherry and Craig seem like a destination to reach. Or to cheer for.
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bronxboy55
November 29, 2012
I bet Sherry and Craig would tell you that they don’t do enough either. I’m pretty sure that most people either berate themselves for not doing more or don’t think about it at all. I agree with you — the ones who take action deserve some cheering, and can be a source of motivation, as well.
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