I don’t write about music, mostly because I don’t know anything about music. I can’t sing, don’t play an instrument, and couldn’t explain the difference between melody and harmony, even on an open-book test. I’m lucky if I can figure out how to turn on the radio. Once in a while I find myself reading music reviews, but my comprehension tends to be low because they use words and phrases like retro, electro-pop, cross-cutting riffs, and jazz-inflected rhythms. I never have the slightest idea what they’re talking about.
As with food and wine, I’m unable to break music down into its basic components and analyze them in any in-depth, comparative way. I don’t know the language and have trouble tuning into the nuances. But I know what I like. It’s either something I want to listen to, or it isn’t.
Recently, I discovered the music of Eve Selis and her band. Eve is married to my nephew, Tom — my oldest brother’s oldest son. I love Tom with all my heart, and so just before meeting Eve, I promised myself I would love her, too, if for no other reason than because of her husband. As it turned out, those private promises proved unnecessary. Eve is every bit as lovable, and would be so, even without her immense talent as a singer, songwriter, and guitarist.
The Eve Selis Band has won about two dozen prestigious awards and has appeared onstage all over the world. Originally called Kings Road, the band has grown and evolved over the past twenty years. Several members have gone on to separate careers, and one passed away. Along with Eve and guitarist Marc Intravaia, the band now includes Jim Soldi, Sharon Whyte, Rick Nash, and Larry Grano. Their appeal, if I may venture into my own personal land of the uninformed, is partly a combination of sound, songwriting skill, and some kind of chemical reaction that seems to happen when they perform together. For me, it isn’t just how they sing, but what they sing about.
They sing about life. Not the perfect life as described by all those sugary, sappy songs that make you want to damage your own eardrums. And not the miserable life bemoaned by so many singers who seem intent on compelling you to fill up the bathtub and drown yourself. These are songs about real life — the annoying struggles and the pleasant little surprises, the devastating heartache and the uplifting joy. They’re about what hurts us and what makes us feel happy, and how sometimes they’re the same things.
The group’s latest CD — their tenth — is Family Tree, and you need only read the titles of the songs to know that these musicians have felt the sting of life’s sharp edges: “Don’t You Feel Lonesome,” “I Don’t Want To Cry,” “When Is Everything Enough.” But other songs reflect the band-members’ ability to take the knocks and bounce back, singing: “Bump in the Road,” “Water Off A Duck’s Back,” “All Roads Lead To Here,” “Crazy That I Love,” and “Hallelujah”.
And that may explain the popularity of these six talented people, not just locally in the San Diego area, but all across North America, Europe, and everywhere they travel. When I listen to their music, I hear the familiar themes of that real life: loss, betrayal, trust, devotion, dreams, gratitude, courage, fear, struggle, self-delusion, determination. The willingness to endure, but the refusal to be destroyed. Having hope without being irrational, and being realistic without becoming grim. Feeling the pain, but remaining strong. Their lyrics remind us that sometimes all we can do is cry, and sometimes we just have to laugh. These people have learned life’s lessons the hard way, which is the only way to learn them. And their music inspires me to at least try to do just what they’ve done themselves: turn those hard lessons into something beautiful.
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Eve sings in at least six major charity fundraisers every year, and is active in the fight against breast cancer. Her music can be heard in four independent films, and she’s performed live on CNBC, ESPN, and CBC Radio. Visit her website and Facebook page for a lot more information about the group, and to hear some of their amazing music. I don’t know if you’ll find any retro, electro-pop, cross-cutting riffs, or jazz-inflected rhythms. But you’re going to love Eve, and her band. That much I know.
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From http://www.essortment.com:
“Melody is a musical and successive line of single tones or pitches perceived as a unity. Its characteristics include range, shape, and movement. Harmony is the relation of notes to notes and chords to chords as they are played simultaneously. Harmonic ‘patterns’ are established from notes and chords in successive order. Melodic intervals are those that are linear and occur in sequence, while harmonic intervals are sounded at the same time.”
(See what I mean?)
patricemj
January 19, 2012
What a beautiful song to wake up to with my morning coffee. There really are angels all around and they do want us to know them. So often we are busy and time with them can be rushed.
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bronxboy55
January 20, 2012
I think the reason that we don’t recognize the people doing angel-type work is that they don’t call attention to themselves. And most of the time, we’re all too busy focusing on a select group of athletes and celebrities who make millions of dollars and continue to lust for the limelight. I get a little discouraged when I think about that. Eve and the band seem to have their priorities straight — and their music helps restore my hope.
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Allan Douglas
January 19, 2012
She has a great voice, I like throaty altos. Several of the songs were quite good – OK all of the songs were good, I just don’t care much for loud, buzzy electric guitars, so a couple were just pretty far out of my preference range. Still, she is quite a talent. Thanks for sharing!
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bronxboy55
January 20, 2012
Thanks for the comment, Allan. I hadn’t noticed the buzzy electric guitars (and I usually do). I always try to focus on the lyrics.
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Selphie
May 30, 2012
Definitely! Wow ~ Well said from you Allan.
I also don’t like that part for guitar issue.
Selphie from allumer un barbecue
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Melinda
January 19, 2012
Oh I love the Do You Know Me…what a sweet song. So true there are unsung heroes all around us. Ha ha on your music knowledge. I’ve picked up a lot since I have my 14 year old musician playing violin, sax, electric guitar, drums, and keyboard. Her room is a music studio with wires running everywhere. I’m still waiting for “Ain’t Talkin Bout Love” by Van Halen to be perfected and I play along on my air guitar even when she insists “please stop that”. But ask me about wine…it is red and white. I think. 🙂
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bronxboy55
January 20, 2012
You have a fourteen-year-old who plays five instruments? That doesn’t seem fair. I played violin for six months, and then my instructor moved to southeast Asia. But that was just a coincidence.
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JSD
January 19, 2012
Well written…my knowledge of music matches yours, and I like most everything. This song is beautiful.
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bronxboy55
January 20, 2012
I agree with you about their music, JSD. Everything they sing feels authentic.
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happykidshappymom
January 19, 2012
Hi Charles,
A music review! What a nice surprise to find on your blog. I will be sure to listen to Eve’s songs later tonight, when the house has quieted from another day of crashing dinosaurs and tumbling ballerinas. 🙂 The kids’ play is often like music, and I feel so lucky to have my own private show every day.
You wrote beautifully about your nephew’s wife. I was especially touched by the heart in this line, “just before meeting Eve, I promised myself I would love her, too.” Would that we all could be so welcoming. The world would be a better place if more people approached life this way.
And now I also feel lucky to have studied music most of my life. It’s a big part of who I am, and as you said, connects us on so many levels,whether we understand its complexities or not. I’m trying to pass down what I know to my kids, but as of yet, our piano “lessons” consist of vying for space on the piano bench, flying elbows to knock siblings off and the “smash all the keys at once” method.
I think, even with your self-purported lack of musical understanding, you delivered a musical review we all can relate to.
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bronxboy55
January 20, 2012
Your comments are always thoughtful and heartfelt, and I appreciate what you have to say. This, especially, stood out: “The kids’ play is often like music, and I feel so lucky to have my own private show every day.” Have you listened to Crazy That I Love yet? The link is at the end of the sixth paragraph in this post.
Thanks again, Melissa. I hope all is well.
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happykidshappymom
January 20, 2012
Charles, that just might be my favorite song ever. The lyrics couldn’t be more perfect, or more timely. I so appreciate your connecting me with it. Thanks for thinking of me — if no other word describes my life right now, it’s “crazy.” And like the singer, I fully related to this line, “I just filled up and I’m low on gas.” Your “niece-in-law” (?) is very talented. Again, so glad you posted this review.
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Kate Kresse
January 19, 2012
oh my! That video–the song, the lyrics, Eve’s soulfulness …. breathtaking.
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bronxboy55
January 20, 2012
I agree completely. Thanks for the comment, Kate.
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O. Leonard
January 19, 2012
Some pretty good liner notes. I listened to the video, and I’m hooked. Will buy the CD. My kids make fun of me because I still buy CDs to add to the thousands that I own. They go to the online music store. I want to have the “album” in my hands. Yeah, I still have some albums too. LOL
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bronxboy55
January 20, 2012
I’m glad you liked their music, O. And I understand what you mean about being able to hold the album in your hands. I still prefer traditional books over e-readers, for the same reason.
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Arindam
January 19, 2012
Music review in your blog! It’s something great. Even I do not know much about music, for me music is something that sounds pleasant to my ears and that goes with my mood. Eve is not only talented but also lucky; as she got the review of her music from you. I am not sure if many people will get that chance to get review for their work from a wonderful writer like you. 🙂
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bronxboy55
January 20, 2012
Well, if you can do a movie review, I can do one on music.
Keep up the great work, Arindam. Your blog is really starting to take off.
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magsx2
January 19, 2012
Hi,
What a fantastic song, and I love the way the film clip was done as well, it just blew me away, a very lovely voice. Thank You for introducing me to this wonderful music.
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bronxboy55
January 20, 2012
You’re welcome, Mags. Thanks for taking the time to read, and listen.
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kianys
January 19, 2012
How have I not heard of her / them yet?! This is beautiful and I’m really in love with her dark, soft, husky and at the same time silky voice 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing this.
I have read so many of your posts and this is the first time I’ve actually commented on one, not because the others were less worthy in any way, just because I felt that I had nothing intelligent or of meaning to add to them.
Not too sure how much of substance this adds to your post, but this time I really felt the need to comment and say thank you.
Such a lovely way to end an otherwise not so lovely day.
🙂 K.
PS. Do mention it if they ever decide to tour Germany! 🙂
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bronxboy55
January 21, 2012
Thank you, kianys. I’m sorry your day wasn’t so great, but if this helped a little, I’m glad.
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Kemi
January 19, 2012
Do you know me? is very inspiring. Loved it!
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bronxboy55
January 21, 2012
I agree, Kemi — it is inspiring. Thank you for the comment.
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Jac
January 19, 2012
“Crazy that I love” reminds me of my life and my attitude towards it (most of the time!) “Family Tree” makes me cry every time I hear it because it makes me miss mia famiglia and the old days…
I am trying to get my local radio station to listen and play some of the songs. The owner goes to our church so I’m hoping he’ll give them a try. I know the 2 songs I mentioned above would be huge hits – so much better than most of the stuff you hear on the radio.
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bronxboy55
January 21, 2012
Their CDs should come with a warning label, though. Every song I listen to gets stuck in my head for hours, and the only way to make it stop is to listen to one of their other songs.
I can’t even listen to the radio, for the very reason you mentioned.
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Jac
January 21, 2012
What’s worse for me is that the whole song isn’t stuck there – just one or two lines, that play over and over and over again….As if I wasn’t crazy enough!
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Life in the Boomer Lane
January 19, 2012
Lovely.
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bronxboy55
January 21, 2012
Thanks, Renee. That’s certainly one of the words I’d use to describe Eve, her band, and their music.
Your blog is filled with so much great writing and humor. I need to get over there more often.
http://lifeintheboomerlane.wordpress.com/
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Sybil
January 19, 2012
A feel-good song. I loved the video.
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bronxboy55
January 21, 2012
I plan on watching that video at least once a week.
Thanks for the comment, Sybil.
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Allison
January 19, 2012
You were right…I love it. Going to Itunes now to find more of her music.
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bronxboy55
January 23, 2012
Listen to “Stop the Train.” I think you’ll like it.
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Renee Fullem
January 19, 2012
Thank you for sharing Eve with us. The song and video are beautiful in every way!
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bronxboy55
January 23, 2012
I thought you’d like them, Renee. Thank you for saying so.
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Betty Londergan
January 19, 2012
Okay, well .. I started watching the video and thought it was kinda sentimental and kitschy … and then of course, I got totally caught up in it and started crying — so YEAH! love your nephew and his wife! What a nice post you wrote about them!!!
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bronxboy55
January 23, 2012
Sentimental? You? I would have never guessed.
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worrywarts-guide-to-weight-sex-and-marriage
January 19, 2012
I think I saw all of my blogging buddies (angels) in the video.
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bronxboy55
January 23, 2012
I’d imagine they’d see you in it, too, WW.
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Diane Henders
January 19, 2012
Thank you so much for sharing this – wonderful music! I just popped over and bought the Family tree CD. Now I’m going to explore the rest of their music. 🙂
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bronxboy55
January 23, 2012
Thanks, Diane. And I just bought one of your new books — Tell Me No Spies. Can’t wait to read it.
http://www.dianehenders.com/buy-books.html
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souldipper
January 19, 2012
Charles, she really is good! Her voice makes listening a complete pleasure. I can see why she’s done well and has had coverage and exposure.
I’m going to put that video on my facebook…
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bronxboy55
January 25, 2012
I know she’s good. Otherwise I wouldn’t have asked you to listen to her. By the way, that’s an interesting word pair: coverage and exposure. Isn’t it?
Thanks, Amy — for the comment and the Facebook link.
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An Idealist Thinker
January 20, 2012
It made me cry.. the soulful music & the video.. do you know me?
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bronxboy55
January 25, 2012
It has a great message and it’s so well done. Thanks, AIT.
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Peggy
January 20, 2012
Dude, you SOOOOOOO nailed Eve and the band and their gifts to everyone who connects with them. What they do and create comes from the entire cellular mass of their beings – it’s impossible to not be affected by their music. And you’re spot-on about the chemical reaction and synergy that happens when they’re all together. Wow. You get it much more than you think you do.
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bronxboy55
January 25, 2012
Thanks, Peggy. The cellular mass thing never occurred to me, but I’m sure you’re right. I hope there are great things on the way for them in 2012 — and for you, too.
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Priya
January 20, 2012
Is it a wonder, then, that she has such soulful eyes?
Thank you for bringing my attention to her absolutely ‘filling’ voice, too. By filling I mean that little thing that makes you feel complete at any given moment because you know there’s goodness and good spirit in this world. That fills you up, doesn’t it?
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bronxboy55
January 25, 2012
It does fill you up, especially during those times when it seems that the goodness and good spirit are fading away. They’re not. We just need to know where to look for them. Thank you, my sweet friend, for always knowing where to look.
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rangewriter
January 20, 2012
Just downloaded some of her songs to my iPod for skiing today! Great find. Love the video.
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bronxboy55
January 25, 2012
I hope you had fun skiing, Linda. Thank you, as always, for your kind words.
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keith anderson
January 20, 2012
yes yes! i have been blessed to see/hear eve’s innate talent since grade school. a few grades above me, eve rocked the house in the folk group and talent shows at our local catholic school. same thing in high school. as i came and went from san diego i always made sure to keep track of eve’s career. king’s road was great. the eve selis band is even better! she is a top notch performer with infectious presence, she’s funny and beautiful, and man does she got pipes! i often cry when listening to eve’s cd’s. i laugh when she calls me my brother’s name (who btw has not been a dedicated devotee like me :). it’s been quite an amazing journey for the past 40 years. thank you evie!!! ❤
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bronxboy55
January 25, 2012
Thank you for that background, Keith. I’m not surprised Eve’s been a star her whole life. She’s obviously worked very hard at what she does.
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Leanna
January 20, 2012
I think thats the beautiful thing about music. You don’t have to understand it to love it. It speaks to you because its a common identity that people share.
What a great band though, absolutely love it.
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bronxboy55
January 25, 2012
I have no aptitude to tell you what it is I like about their work, beyond the messages in their words and how the music sounds and feels to me. But you’re right: that’s all we need.
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Jeanne
January 20, 2012
I am in awe reading the comments above. Eve Selis is my sister and naturally I am a HUGE fan and think she is beyond talented and I LOVE that so many are responding to this amazing song. Some of our family is in the video as riders on the bus, the teacher, strangers on the street. So beautiful and I never get tired of this song and so many others. She is gifted more than you can know from just hearing her music. You MUST see her perform live, as you will find yourself transported into her heart and soul. It’s a gift I would pay handsomely for. Thanks so much for this!!!!!!!!!!!
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bronxboy55
January 25, 2012
Thank you for your feedback, Jeanne. I know I didn’t do justice to the band, but I think a few people were able to get a taste of their music. And while you may not have gotten Eve’s gift for singing, I have no doubt you have gifts of your own. Your loyalty to family is an obvious one. Eve is lucky to have you for a sister. (Are you in the video?)
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Earth Ocean Sky Redux
January 20, 2012
Small world. One of my good friends lives in LaJolla California has seen Eve and band perform in/around SanDiego many times. Last Christmas my friend sent to me TWO of Eve’s CD’s – one called Hey, Nineteen, and the other Ten. Both CD’s are wonderful and several of her songs are now in my iTunes queue and on my iPod.
How great is that?? Great talent abounds in your family.
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bronxboy55
January 25, 2012
I’m happy to hear it, EOS, but not really surprised. They have just the right mix of talent, personality, and dedication. I think these small-world coincidences will become more and more common in the near future.
Thanks for the great comment.
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oolung
January 20, 2012
Wow, that sounds like a great recommendation! I personally love Mumford & Sons – for exactly the reasons you mentioned. I feel like their songs have an actual meaning and don’t just go “shake your booty, babe” or “I loved you, you left me, it’s raining”. Thank you to all those real artists out there for their beautiful music!
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bronxboy55
January 29, 2012
I’m not familiar with Mumford & Sons, but will check them out. When you get all of that other stuff out of your way, there really is some meaningful music out there. Thanks, oolung.
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Snoring Dog Studio
January 21, 2012
Beautiful song. It hurt. I’m going to go see my elderly parents in a few days. It hurts.
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bronxboy55
January 29, 2012
I hope you had a good visit with your parents, SDS. Maybe the real stuff always hurts, at least a little.
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Earth Ocean Sky Redux
January 21, 2012
Off-topic a bit but my copy of Who Knew? arrived yesterday. Am hopping a plane today and it will be my in-flight reading. Looking forward to it Charles.
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bronxboy55
January 29, 2012
Thank you, EOS. I’m honored.
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Eve Selis
January 22, 2012
Thank you all for your beautiful words. This is why I do what I do. I appreciate your support. Please spread the word. It’s one of the the only ways an independent musician can grow these days. And thank you Uncle Charlie for such a heartfelt review. I’m so glad we got to meet you and your wonderful family. We’ll have to try and get up to your neck of the woods one day.
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bronxboy55
January 29, 2012
I’m sure by now, after all the performances and CDs, you have thousands of people helping you get the word out. I’m just one more. Please give Tom a hug for me.
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Val
January 22, 2012
When I’ve a little more brain than I have presently, I’ll listen to more of the music… but from what I’ve so far heard, I like it. 🙂
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bronxboy55
January 30, 2012
I’ve found that no matter what kind of mood I’m in, they have a song that seems to fit.
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earthriderjudyberman
January 22, 2012
Like you, I know what I like when it comes to music, art, etc. Thanks for sharing this. Beautiful music, video and message.
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bronxboy55
January 30, 2012
Thank you for the comment, Judy. I’m glad you like the music.
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Marie M
January 22, 2012
Thanks for sharing this, BronxBoy. What a pleasure to listen to songs I can understand the intelligently written words to and that tell stories of real life. Layers of hope don’t hurt either. Lovely all around. Thanks again.
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bronxboy55
January 30, 2012
I thought you’d feel that way, Marie. I know it isn’t necessary to share values with artists in order to appreciate their work. But once in a while, it’s a nice surprise, isn’t it?
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SaptarshiC
January 23, 2012
Hmm.. I guess you really feel strongly about the music, the themes and, of course, the people. Your usual style is missing from the post and that shows that you like the band a lot!
I’ll make sure ckeck out their music. Thanks a lot!
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bronxboy55
January 30, 2012
I tried to get out of the way and just present Eve and the band, and let people judge for themselves. If I succeeded in that, I’m glad.
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The Sandwich Lady
January 23, 2012
Charles, I just nominated you for a “Versatile Blogger Award.” Click on my link to find out more about it. Congratulations and thanks for inspiring me!
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bronxboy55
January 30, 2012
Catherine, the other day I published a post about receiving the award from a few other bloggers and I failed to include you. I’ve just corrected that oversight. I’m sorry! And thank you for the honor!
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ConfusedDi
January 24, 2012
Thanks for sharing this with us! Such an inspiration!
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bronxboy55
January 30, 2012
It was fun for me, and I agree about the inspiration.
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dearrosie
January 25, 2012
I love your line
“I promised myself I would love her, too, if for no other reason than because of her husband.”
Thank you for the music. It was a pleasure to sit back and listen to her singing – what a beautiful voice.
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bronxboy55
January 30, 2012
Thank you, Rosie. I’m surprised every day that I have another one of their songs playing in my head.
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Tori Nelson
January 25, 2012
I think I’m a new fan! I’m like you. I definitely know what I like, but couldn’t tell you what notes or bars or instruments are strummed in the background!
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bronxboy55
January 30, 2012
It’s probably that way for most people, Tori. We like something, and we don’t have to know the technical reasons. Thanks for the comment.
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Jessica Sieghart
January 27, 2012
HI Charles! The great thing about music is that you don’t have to know anything about it to appreciate it. Music has been found in every known culture.That tells me that, in one way or another, it speaks to each and every one of us. That being said….LOVE Eve! As an alto myself, I have a “thing” for alto fronts. We’re generally not used to hearing them and I think the depths of her voice add a lot to the song. I’d love a CD! Going to search for one. Sorry it’s taken me so long to respond to this. After breaking a bone in my hand, I can finally type once again 🙂 Thanks for your words and the music.
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bronxboy55
January 30, 2012
Jessica, you know more than I do — I wasn’t even aware that Eve is an alto. I just know I like her singing, and what she sings. I’m glad you like it, too.
Take care of that hand. There are a lot more great columns in there, waiting to be written.
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Amiable Amiable
February 8, 2012
I love Eve’s voice and music – thank you for the introduction, Charles. I’ve just shared her video with a fellow blogger (link below) and my Prayer Circle back at my church in Connecticut – all unassuming angels in our midst.
http://yearofgiving.org/2012/01/17/week-50-of-reeds-year-of-volunteering-wheels-to-africa/
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bronxboy55
February 8, 2012
Thank you for doing that, AA. In fact, thank you for doing everything you do. I hope we can talk soon.
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Amiable Amiable
February 8, 2012
We will! Lots of catching up to do about everyone and everything!
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mcgulotta
June 23, 2012
Eve has a fantastic voice. She has a great personality and very upbeat. It was a pleasure meeting Eve and Tom and their family.
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